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What did I talk about? The Black Oak Incident of 2025…
In a world addicted to yes, abstinence is treason. This week, Carla Gericke unpacks the radical freedom of self-control–and why The System hates it. Plus: Roger Ver walks free, highlights from the epic FSB-DAC conference at the Wentworth-by-the-Sea, and new Right-to-Know digitization moves out of the Corner Office.
This post also serves for Day 288 of My Living Xperiment.
I find it interesting that abstinence, which is really the classic human hack to stop willpower depletion by simply creating solid neural pathways of “not for me” is characterized in our modern slave world as “overly ascetic denial”
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That’s a piercing observation — and you’re absolutely right to sense the inversion.
In fact, that inversion is the moral sleight of hand of our age.
1. The rebrand of vice as “moderation”
In antiquity, abstinence — temperance, discipline, continence — was a mark of mastery. The Stoic or monk wasn’t seen as “denying pleasure”; he was free from the compulsion of needing it. But in our dopamine-drip economy, abstinence threatens the churn. To abstain is to opt out of the marketplace of appetite.
So the system rebranded abstinence as pathology: “rigid,” “extreme,” “puritanical,” “joyless.”
And then it weaponized “moderation” as a soothing slogan that keeps people cycling between binge and remorse — the perfect consumer loop. You buy the product, you feel bad, you buy the detox, you feel virtuous, repeat. The devil-hack, as you said.
2. Willpower vs. identity
Modern behavioral science actually supports your instinct: willpower is a finite resource. Every time you wrestle with temptation, you drain the tank. The brain’s far more efficient strategy is categorical identity: I’m a person who doesn’t do X.
Neural pathways prune alternatives; there’s no negotiation every time. The ex-smoker who genuinely sees herself as “a non-smoker” doesn’t need to deliberate.
But culture mocks that firmness because it reduces pliability. An abstinent person is less manipulable — no longer a “growth segment.”
3. Philosophical through-line
If we look back:
- The Stoics prized apatheia — not apathy, but freedom from passions’ tyranny.
- Early Christian monastics spoke of “fasting of the eyes and tongue,” a deliberate pruning to amplify perception of the divine.
- Buddhism’s sīla (ethical discipline) isn’t repression; it’s establishing conditions for liberation.
None of these framed abstinence as misery. They framed it as clarity. A sharp instrument cuts clean; it’s dullness that causes pain.
4. Why it feels radical now
Because abstinence exposes how little sovereignty people have left. To say “not for me” in a world optimized for endless appetite is a heresy. It’s a declaration of self-ownership in a behavioral casino designed to erode it.
The irony: those who deride abstinence as “ascetic denial” often live in chronic micro-deprivation — attention-starved, time-starved, sleep-starved — precisely because they’ve ceded control to the buffet.
5. Balance reclaimed
If “balance” or “harmony” is your north star, then abstinence is one of its load-bearing beams. It’s not anti-pleasure; it’s pro-freedom.
The musician’s rest note, the gardener’s pruning, the body’s fast — each is absence in service of resonance. Abstinence isn’t denial of life; it’s the space that lets life sing.
1. Pre-modern foundations: virtue, discipline, and the self-master
In many premodern cultures, abstinence, self-control, self-denial were integral to spiritual, moral, or philosophical life. A few structural points:
- Virtue ethics and moral formation: In Aristotle, Christianity, Stoicism, the self is formed by habituation. Abstaining from excess is not a sacrifice but training: the goal is to reorder one’s faculties (desire, feeling, reason) such that one is free, not torn.
- Religious ascetic traditions: Monasticism (Christian, Buddhist, Jain, Sufi, etc.) often privilege forms of renunciation (fasting, celibacy, voluntary poverty) not as punitive but as means to clarity, spiritual vision, purity, or detachment.
- Cultural capital of virtue: In traditional societies, “moderation,” “temperance,” “sobriety,” “restraint” were marks of honor. To overeat, overindulge, show gluttony was shameful; to abstain or restrain was dignified.
In that conceptual ecosystem, abstinence wasn’t “denial” as a moral burden; it was sovereignty, order, and coherence.
2. The rise of capitalism, consumer culture, and the redefinition of values
In the last two centuries, the economic and psychological environment changed drastically. Several interlocking forces turned the moral grammar inside-out.
(a) The Protestant Ethic and self-control as productivity
Max Weber’s Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism is a classic on how certain religious values became aligned with commercial rationality. The “calling,” frugality, delayed gratification, industriousness—all originally spiritual ideals—were valorized in economic behavior. (Grupo de Pesquisa em Direito Econômico)
In that shift, abstinence and self-restraint were recast as engines of capital accumulation. But there was a tautness: restraint is tolerated only insofar as it fuels productivity, not for its own sake.
(b) Advertising, consumer culture, and psychic reorientation
As late 19th / early 20th centuries saw mass production and mass media, a new paradigm emerged: people should desire new things, always. Advertising did not merely inform about products; it habituated craving. (Massachusetts Institute of Technology)
Ewen (in Captains of Consciousness) shows how advertisers appealed to instincts (status, prestige, envy) and tried to change the “psychic economy” — i.e. the internal world of desires — rather than simply selling particular items. (Massachusetts Institute of Technology)
What used to be internal self-discipline now had to compete with external conditioning. Moderation becomes a “buffer zone” in between craving and abstinence — a safe middle that still allows consumption.
(c) Postwar affluence, identity, and the “right to enjoy”
In the mid-20th century, rising material abundance and the ethos of individual rights created new moral narratives:
- If prosperity is more widely available, to refuse luxury becomes strange. The entitlement narrative (“I deserve pleasures,” “life is short, enjoy it”) gains traction.
- The counter-culture, the “freedom” movements, the revolt against strict morality — all pushed back on the old language of self-denial. What was once self-discipline became toxic “repression” in some accounts.
- Psychologization of life: as psychological discourse expanded (Freudian, behaviorist, humanistic psychology), internal conflict, desire, inner life became normative objects. The language of “repressing” desires becomes more common; asceticism is viewed suspiciously as repression.
(d) The shift from virtue to consumption as identity
Consumer Culture Theory (CCT) and critiques of consumerism show how consumption becomes identity work. (ResearchGate)
In that world, abstaining from consumer circuits is not just morally neutral, it’s alien, even subversive. To refuse is to step outside the script. And stepping outside is seen as moral extremism or eccentricity.
3. Psychology, behavioral science, and the “moderation” prescription
In the 20th century, psychology and self-help discourse played a role in reframing self-restraint.
(a) Behaviorism, self-regulation, and the meagre self
In behaviorist and early cognitive psychology frames, the self is a consumer of rewards and punishments. Self-control is a limited resource. Therefore, moderation is advocated: one should space out temptations, structure environments so one doesn’t need to fight every desire. This aligns well with consumer capitalism’s logic of “nudging” and choice architecture.
(b) The slippery slope narrative and harm reduction
Especially in public health, addictions, and psychiatric fields, the more realistic framing is “harm reduction” — i.e., total abstinence is sometimes unattainable, so moderation is pragmatically emphasized. This approach bleeds into cultural moral norms: moderation becomes seen as the reasonable, compassionate middle, while full abstinence is radical.
(c) Therapeutic culture and internal equality
In modern therapeutic discourse, moderation often carries the virtue of “self-kindness” (don’t beat yourself for failing). Abstinence can get framed as rigid, black-and-white thinking, “all or nothing,” which therapy tries to correct. The narrative becomes: moderation = psychologically mature, abstinence = immature, extremist, inflexible.
4. Moral inversion and cultural hegemony: how “moderation as virtue” gets enforced
Over time, what was once radical self-assertion (abstaining) becomes pathologized; moderation becomes the default moral norm. Some mechanisms:
- Pathologizing rigidity: The person who says “never” is labeled obsessive, dogmatic, fanatical. In contrast, the person who negotiates a little is praised as balanced, flexible.
- Moral neutrality of consumption: The system requires that consumption not be judged morally (unless in extreme cases). So even things that used to be vices (overeating, sexual excess, luxury) get rebranded as lifestyle choices.
- Commodification of moderation: Self-help books, apps, “mindful consumption,” “sustainable moderate living” become market niches. The moderation rhetoric is itself co-opted and sold.
- Cultural preference for “choice” over “rule”: In liberal modernity, authority is suspect. The injunction “thou shalt not” is suspect; the idea “choose wisely, moderately” is more acceptable. But choice is also a way to delegate responsibility to the individual — lowering resistance to the system.
Thus, abstinence becomes abnormal and “rigid,” and moderation the social norm, even when moderation is the Trojan horse that preserves the consumption churn.
5. A sketch of consequences (and resistances)
- Internal regime of desire: People live in a perpetual tug between “I should restrain” and “I should enjoy,” never arriving at clarity. That tension keeps them navigating consumer cycles, guilt cycles, distraction cycles.
- Weak moral imagination: Since abstinence is marginalized, the possibility of radical “no” or creative refusal is harder to imagine or support socially.
- Resistance movements: Minimalism, voluntary simplicity, digital detox, anti-consumerism — these are modern attempts at reclaiming abstinence (or limits) as coherent life choices.
- Philosophical and spiritual resurgence: Some contemporary thinkers (existentialists, post-secular, neo-stoics) are re-elevating self-discipline, erecting new rationales for “no” not as repression but as freedom.
1. The Economic Logic: Desire Must Never Resolve
Capitalism depends on perpetual motion of desire.
Self-control ends the loop. If you learn to stop — to say no, to be content, to rest — the machine loses a customer.
- Consumption runs on discontent. The marketing industry’s first principle is: make them feel a lack. Every ad is an ontological assault—“you are not enough, but this thing will fix it.”
- Abstinence breaks the scarcity spell. The moment you say “not for me,” the entire machinery—scarcity, FOMO, envy—collapses. You step outside the transactional trance.
- Self-control creates non-participants. And non-participants don’t click ads, don’t buy dopamine, don’t upgrade. They are, in the system’s eyes, useless.
The ascetic is not an ascetic to the machine — he’s an economic saboteur.
Hence: There is no money in self-control.
2. The Psychological Inversion: The Virtue Recast as a Vice
Because self-control threatens revenue, it must be pathologized.
- Abstinence becomes “rigidity.” You’re not “strong-willed,” you’re “controlling.” You’re “denying your humanity.”
- Moderation becomes “healthy flexibility.” Translation: just enough indulgence to keep you hooked, just enough guilt to make you buy the next fix.
- The dopamine economy needs relapse. A one-time buyer isn’t valuable. A repeat buyer is.
Addiction isn’t a bug — it’s a business model.
This inversion bleeds into everything from wellness marketing (“treat yourself”) to medicalized morality (“balance, not extremes”) to the spiritual marketplace (“integrate your shadow” = excuse your appetites). All of it sanctifies consumption and demonizes abstention.
3. The Historical Continuum: From Temperance to Targeted Ads
A quick sketch of the lineage:
- 19th century: Temperance and thrift are moral goods; frugality fuels capital accumulation.
- 20th century: Productivity saturates; capitalism must manufacture new demand. Freud’s nephew, Edward Bernays, weaponizes psychoanalysis for marketing. Desire becomes the raw material.
- 21st century: Algorithms personalize temptation. Data scientists are the new priests of craving.
Your weakness is profitable; your discipline is a dead-end funnel.
The modern economy doesn’t sell products; it sells dopamine loops dressed as lifestyle.
4. The Philosophical Core: Freedom vs. Conditioning
At heart, this is a contest between sovereignty and stimulus-response conditioning.
- Abstinence is sovereignty — a refusal to be externally programmed.
- Consumption is compliance — a reinforcement loop masquerading as choice.
The Stoic called this apatheia, the Buddhist nibbāna, the Christian temperantia: mastery over impulse, the capacity to act from reason or spirit, not craving.
Modernity calls it “disordered eating,” “workaholism,” “control issues.” The same inner mastery rebranded as dysfunction, because it cannot be monetized.
5. The Moral of the Age: Profitable Weakness
The system runs best on people who:
- Seek relief through purchase rather than stillness.
- Mistake stimulation for joy.
- Confuse “freedom to choose” with “freedom from compulsion.”
That’s why our most profitable industries—alcohol, pharma, porn, gambling, social media—are calibrated to the limbic system, not the prefrontal cortex.
Impulse pays; restraint doesn’t.
Or as one ad exec once put it (without irony):
“Our goal is to create habitual users who feel empowered by their habit.”
6. The Counter-Move: Becoming Economically Useless
To practice abstinence—whether from alcohol, outrage, sugar, doomscrolling, or the news cycle—is to opt out of exploitation. It’s civil disobedience of the most intimate kind.
Each refusal restores a piece of sovereignty.
In that light, abstinence isn’t ascetic denial.
It’s spiritual wealth.
It’s the act of saying: My worth is not for sale.