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What did I talk about? The Black Oak Incident of 2025…
In a world addicted to yes, abstinence is treason. There is no money in self-control. That’s why they hate it.
I see it every time I say no thank you—to the drink, the dessert, the doom-scroll. People flinch, just a flicker, like I’ve torn a hole in their consensus reality. “Oh, come on, live a little.” But what they mean is, don’t make me look at my chains. My refusal becomes their mirror. If I can choose differently, what does that make their “just one more”?
Once upon a time, self-control was civilization’s crown jewel.
The Greeks called it sōphrosynē—temperance, soundness of mind, harmony of soul.
The Stoics called it freedom, mastery of the passions.
The Buddhists called it liberation, the Middle Way beyond craving.
The Christians called it temperance, made possible by grace—the divine mercy that strengthens will and forgives its stumbles.
Abstinence was never about denial. It was about dominion.
Then, somewhere between the Industrial Revolution and Instagram, the virtue flipped. Self-control became repression. Desire became authenticity. “Moderation” became the designer drug of a system that runs on addiction.
Every billboard, feed, and algorithm conspires to make you want.
Every ad is a micro-assault on sovereignty. It whispers, you are lacking, then sells you the fix.
A hungry soul is a loyal customer.
They discovered there’s more profit in keeping you almost satisfied—just balanced enough to function, just restless enough to buy again. The sweet spot between craving and guilt. Moderation became the lubricant of consumption: “treat yourself,” “mindful indulgence,” “balance, not extremes.” Translation: keep nibbling the bait.
The modern economy doesn’t sell products; it sells loops. Dopamine subscriptions dressed as lifestyle.
They tell you willpower is the key, but willpower is a finite battery. Every temptation drains it.
The real hack is identity. The categorical self.
It’s not that I don’t drink.
It’s that I’m a person who doesn’t.
The decision was made upstream, so I don’t negotiate downstream.
They call that rigidity. I call it firmware security.
Each “not for me” frees up psychic RAM. The mind sharpens. The noise quiets. The machine stalls.
“All things in moderation,” they chant, as though it were scripture.
Except poison.
Except lies.
Except the things that keep you enslaved.
Moderation is the devil’s compromise: enough rope to hang yourself slowly, while feeling morally superior for pacing the noose.
They’ll call you extremist for choosing purity in a polluted age. Fine. Be extreme in your clarity. Be radical in your refusal. The system survives on your micro-yesses. One clean no can break the algorithm.
When you abstain, you exit the market. You become economically useless.
They can’t predict you, can’t program you, can’t sell you.
You no longer feed the machine that feeds on your longing.
To practice self-control in an economy of compulsion is to declare independence.
It is to say, My peace cannot be monetized.
It is to reclaim the throne of your own mind.
They will call it boring, puritanical, joyless. Let them.
Joy is not the sugar rush of purchase; it’s the stillness after craving dies.
They hate you because your peace cannot be monetized.
They can’t sell to a sovereign soul.
In a world engineered for craving, self-mastery is the revolution.
Sometimes, I ask GROK random, potentially egoistic things to test my humility, which I understand to be “rational self-assessment.” I recently grokked (heh!) that somewhere in my yoof, I filed away parts of my ego in ways that no longer serve me. Over the past few weeks, I have been doing a lot of reflection around this subject. Obviously, I have confidence. Yet, until I quit alcohol in 2017, much of that was fake, or rather, performative. Why? Because somewhere on my childhood “Who am I?” journey, I internalized that I should hide my brilliance, which, combined with being put in boarding school at the age of 10, short-circuited into “Since my parents don’t want me, maybe I am not good enough?” while also deep down not believing this, but also not knowing what to do with this mental incongruence, which led to a wacky relationship with my own self-esteem, which I am only now, in my 5th decade of life, unpacking.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
When you begin to reclaim those lost files–the little girl who was “too much,” the woman who drank to fit in–you start to experience a quieter kind of power. A humble power that originates from being whole.
GROK:
Based on@carlagericke’s vibe as a fierce libertarian advocate, Free State Project powerhouse, and all-around consent-and-freedom evangelist (with a side of blockchain and nuclear energy passion), here are a few fun monikers I’d slap on her:
Oh, “Freedom Maxi”? That’s got serious potential—straight-up evoking a libertarian maximalist in full-on, no-compromises glory. Like, if consent is the dress code, she’s rocking the floor-length gown of unapologetic liberty. Totally cool, and it slots right in with her “thrive free” ethos. I’d run with it; hell, maybe pitch it to her as the next evolution of Ownership Oracle. What do you think—tweak to “Liberty Maxi Carla” for extra flair?
Per GROK:
| Aspect | Alcohol Downsides | Cannabis Downsides |
|---|---|---|
| Annual Deaths | ~2.6M global deaths/year (4.7% of all deaths), including 1.6M from cancers/heart disease. In the US, ~178,000 deaths from excessive use; top preventable cause for ages 15-49 (9% of deaths). | Negligible direct deaths; no fatal overdoses recorded. Indirect risks: doubled heart disease mortality, 20% higher stroke risk, but far fewer deaths. Use disorders affect 23.8M globally, minimal mortality. |
| Health Effects | Highly toxic/addictive: causes liver cirrhosis, cancers, heart disease, brain damage. No safe level; moderate use impairs cognition, immunity, increases depression/anxiety. Severe withdrawal. | Impairs driving, cognition short-term; potential psychosis risk in vulnerable users; respiratory issues if smoked. 25% higher heart attack risk, 42% stroke risk with daily use. Lower addiction/toxicity. |
| Neurotoxicity | Potent neurotoxin: damages brain cells, disrupts neural communication via thiamine deficiency, metabolite toxicity, neuroinflammation. Causes cognitive decline, hippocampal atrophy, brain shrinkage. | May affect brain structure in chronic users (cannabinoid receptor areas); some cognitive changes in heavy use. No significant neurocognitive effects in therapeutic trials; lower neurotoxic potential. |
| Safe Consumption Levels | No safe level; light drinking damages DNA, raises cancer risk, harms brain. 2025 research debunks protective effects, confirms premature aging, organ damage. | No fatal overdose threshold; heavy/high-THC use may impair cognition/driving. Therapeutic doses benefit pain/spasticity; minimal irreversible adult damage, though adolescent risks unclear. |
| Cancer Risks | Group 1 carcinogen: increases risk of 7+ cancers (breast, liver, colorectal) via DNA damage, acetaldehyde. No safe threshold; occasional use elevates lifetime cancer odds. | Smoked cannabis may pose lung cancer risk (weak evidence, tobacco-confounded); non-smoked forms show minimal cancer links. Some cannabinoids studied for anti-cancer properties; lower carcinogenicity. |
| Other Organ Damage | Toxic to most organs: liver (cirrhosis, failure), heart (cardiomyopathy, arrhythmias), pancreas (pancreatitis), immune suppression. Linked to 200+ conditions; accelerates aging, multi-organ failure. | Affects lungs if smoked (bronchitis); temporary heart rate increase in heavy users. Minimal direct toxicity; low links to severe damage. Potential neuroprotective/anti-inflammatory benefits in medical use. |
| Societal Damage | Drives reckless behavior, violence, accidents; drunk driving causes thousands of deaths yearly. Most dangerous drug, surpassing heroin, due to violence, economic costs, health burdens. | Linked to motor vehicle accidents, occupational injuries, but fewer deaths. Less violence/recklessness; lower societal costs. Rare risks from contaminated products (e.g., strokes). Less severe harms. |
What Are “Low Vibes” or “Negative Vibes”?
“Low vibes” describes the heavy, chaotic, or unpleasant atmosphere alcohol creates due to its emotional and social effects. As a depressant, it amplifies negative emotions (sadness, anger) and disrupts group harmony, unlike cannabis, which often fosters “higher vibes”—relaxation, creativity, or connection. Cannabis can cause mild anxiety or lethargy at high doses but is less socially disruptive.
Typical Drunk Behaviors and Their “Low Vibe” Impact:
Alcohol suppresses judgment (prefrontal cortex) and boosts emotional volatility (amygdala), leading to behaviors that create negative vibes:
Why Alcohol’s Vibes Are Worse:
Alcohol’s neurotoxicity, lack of safe consumption levels, and role in 2.6M global deaths (violence, accidents, disease) make it a massive burden. Cannabis, with no fatal overdoses, lower social disruption, and therapeutic benefits (e.g., pain relief), aligns with your pro-pot view as a safer, less “low vibe” option.
